Why We Should Be a Mentor/Mentee

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Have you ever heard someone say, The more you know, the more you realize how much you don’t know?  I’ve heard it, and I’ve said it.  It is inevitable that as you learn more about something or someone you realize how clueless you actually were up to this point.  That’s exactly what has happened to me when I got married to my wife, Stephanie.  It happened again when I became a parent to my son, Matthew.  I learned so much.  I still made and continue to make plenty of mistakes, but it does seem that the frequency of those mistakes is getting less and less frequent.  I am learning slowly, but steadily.

For the past 6 years, I have been involved with a men’s discipleship group.  There are four of us and we meet on Thursday nights.  There are two older gentlemen in the group who are grandparents and two of us younger guys.  Both of us younger guys have gotten married and had our first child in the time we have been meeting as a group.  We get together and we discuss God, the Bible, and our lives.  There is not an important decision in my life that I make without going through this group first.  They provide me with amazing advice and help keep me accountable as a man of God.

Now that I am a parent, I am seeing that my role of being a mentee to older, wiser men, is switching to the role where I will play the part of the mentor to my child.  He will look to me to be his example.  As he grows older, he will hopefully come to me for advice.  In addition, I have set a goal for myself to find someone who could benefit from my experience and be a mentor to them.  I am still working out exactly who that is going to be.

The more I can teach others, the more I will learn myself.  It’s one of the greatest ways to learn and one of the greatest ways to grow.  I will always still need a mentor myself.  A person who has walked the road I’m currently on.  It is also important that I let what I have learned flow out into someone else who could use my help.

If we want to see real growth in our lives, we all need to find a mentor to guide us and at the same time, be a mentor to others by sharing the lessons that we’ve learned.

Here are three steps we can take to do this:

 

Be coachable

One of the greatest character traits we can have is to be humble.  Admitting we don’t know it all is a form a humility, and then being willing to learn from others is the action that follows.  Without coaches and mentors in life, I’d still be struggling in some areas and making some of the same mistakes over and over again.  I still make some of the same mistakes.  However, when I admit to myself and even to others that I don’t know then I’ve given myself a great opportunity to learn and grow.  And change happens next.  Change in our marriages, change in our parenting, change at work, and change in how we live our lives.  The key word is change.

 

Start where you are and use what you have

There were times in my life where I wasn’t sure how to find a mentor or what makes a good mentor.  And, of course, there were times where I felt there is no way I can help anybody as I don’t know what I’m doing myself.  I’m certain you can relate to that as well.

Finding a mentor doesn’t have to be this great and complex process.  Who do you know personally that you’ve learned something from, that has experienced something you have yet to, and is where you would like to be in a particular aspect of your life?

The same goes for being a mentor.  What have you learned from your experiences?  There are plenty of people, both youth and adults, who can benefit from your experience.  The first that should come to mind are your kids, if you are a parent.  We must start with our kids, but don’t end there as our mentorship is needed for others.

 

Find one, be one, and walk with one

The first (find one) and probably the most important is a life mentor who can pour into you.  Someone who has been there and done that and can help guide you.  The second (be one) is having a mentee, or someone younger or less experienced than you, that you can pour your knowledge, lessons, and experiences into.  The third (walk with one) is a peer or peer group.  People who are at or near that same stage of life, development, and experience as you.  These are people who walk side by side with you.  That completes a circle of learning for you and allows you to get the most out of what you learn and what you experience.

 

God did not design us to do life alone.  We are surrounded with people we can learn from and also people we can teach.  Let’s choose today to make the most of our opportunities to be both.  Only through these types of relationships will we grow into the people that we were designed to be.  Only through these types of relationships can we reach our full potential.  And that is what we really want isn’t it?

About wmarsau

Most of the people who visit this blog already know me so it is kind of pointless to try to describe my life in this short little blurb. What is the purpose of this blog is the question. Over the course of this last year I have been exposed to some amazing people and have made personal development an important focus of my life. Being successful, not by the world's standards, but by God's has become my main focus. Mainly, I want to work to develop myself as a person who is kinder, reaches out to help those in need, and truly makes a difference in this world. To this end I am constantly reading and am exposed to so many differnet things along the way. These have been amazing and it is helping me grow so much. Then I started to think, "Why am I being so selfish?" You need to share with others these amazing things you are learning and being exposed to. That is where this blog comes into play. As I am reading and experiencing things that are truly amazing and life changing, I will be posting them on this blog. Obviously, I will not be able to post everything in it's entirity, but I will be summarizing them and letting you know the source of the article or book they come from so you can check them out later if you wish. I want this blog to be a place where you can go to often and be inspired and leave here with a smile on your face. I will be covering all kinds of different topics dealing with success and personal development. Topics like taking action, relationships, living to your potential, reinventing yourself, finances, leadership, presenting, goal setting, time management, etc. I will also be occasionally including topics on cooking, music, and gardening because they are special interests of mine. As a little disclaimer, I have given my life to the Lord and he is #1 in my life. I am his servant and everything I do in life is for his glory. With that being said, religion influences all areas of my life. There will be references to God in this blog because I can't seperate God from this or any other area of my life. I want you to know that if you do not believe in God, that is fine. That is your choice. This blog is open to anyone who wants to better their life. I will not be trying to influence or pressure anyone into having a relationship with the Lord from this site. Please don't feel uncomfortable. You can just read the portions of the blog that you wish to. I am inviting you to go on a journey with me. We will learn together to be the kind of people we were designed to be. Anyone can make a difference in this world, but it starts%
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