Listening Could Change Your 2019


Proverbs 19:20 (NIV)

20 Listen to advice and accept discipline,
    and at the end you will be counted among the wise.


Isn’t it interesting how we think about a new year?  We tend to think more of losing that extra 10 pounds than on gaining deeper, more vibrant relationships?  The beginning of a new year gives us a choice regarding the core relationships in our lives.  For men who are single or for those who are married, we are all in the workshop of relationships.  Wouldn’t it be great if we made the choice to become more like Jesus in every relationship?  What would that look like?  What if we made a commitment to every member of our family?  The following resolution could be a game-changer in 2019 for anyone close to you, but especially in your marriage.

Each day I commit to really listening to your voice, to engage in the process of validation, which is the first step toward intimacy.  When you are speaking to me, instead of thinking about my response, I will simply listen.  I will listen to your point of view and try to find the kindest, least offensive way for sharing mine.  I will learn to trust a little more, lean in a little closer, and risk vulnerability.  As I do so, I will base our connection on forgiveness.  Today I will begin to release the baggage so that I may fully embrace you.  As Christ walks in grace with me, I will walk in grace with you, knowing that will ultimately bring healing to the wounds of my past.

I know that when it comes to listening and being empathetic with my wife, Stephanie, I have fallen horribly short in the past.  I don’t want that to be the reality.  I want her to know that I am focusing on changing that in this New Year.  I want to be kinder and gentler in my communications with her and want her voice to be more fully heard.  I pledge to her that I will do my best to improve in this area.

Max Lucado said, “The meaning of life.  The wasted years of life.  The poor choices of life.  God answers the mess of life with one word: “grace.””  I think we could all do a little better with giving more grace to others, just as Jesus gave to us when we didn’t deserve it.

I challenge each of us to reflect today on how we can grow as a listener in 2019.  I also challenge us to write our own resolution for becoming better listeners.  Then share it with those we love the most.  We need to take the challenge of Proverbs 19:20.  We all need to strive to be better listeners and to grow in wisdom.

Here are a couple of questions for us to think about this week:

  1. Why is it so important for the ones you love to be heard?
  2. What is your greatest obstacle to listening to them?

I know that I am not a great listener, but I am going to do everything I can to get better at this in 2019.  Who knows, maybe I can lose 10 pounds too.  That would just be icing on the cake!


About wmarsau

Most of the people who visit this blog already know me so it is kind of pointless to try to describe my life in this short little blurb. What is the purpose of this blog is the question. Over the course of this last year I have been exposed to some amazing people and have made personal development an important focus of my life. Being successful, not by the world's standards, but by God's has become my main focus. Mainly, I want to work to develop myself as a person who is kinder, reaches out to help those in need, and truly makes a difference in this world. To this end I am constantly reading and am exposed to so many differnet things along the way. These have been amazing and it is helping me grow so much. Then I started to think, "Why am I being so selfish?" You need to share with others these amazing things you are learning and being exposed to. That is where this blog comes into play. As I am reading and experiencing things that are truly amazing and life changing, I will be posting them on this blog. Obviously, I will not be able to post everything in it's entirity, but I will be summarizing them and letting you know the source of the article or book they come from so you can check them out later if you wish. I want this blog to be a place where you can go to often and be inspired and leave here with a smile on your face. I will be covering all kinds of different topics dealing with success and personal development. Topics like taking action, relationships, living to your potential, reinventing yourself, finances, leadership, presenting, goal setting, time management, etc. I will also be occasionally including topics on cooking, music, and gardening because they are special interests of mine. As a little disclaimer, I have given my life to the Lord and he is #1 in my life. I am his servant and everything I do in life is for his glory. With that being said, religion influences all areas of my life. There will be references to God in this blog because I can't seperate God from this or any other area of my life. I want you to know that if you do not believe in God, that is fine. That is your choice. This blog is open to anyone who wants to better their life. I will not be trying to influence or pressure anyone into having a relationship with the Lord from this site. Please don't feel uncomfortable. You can just read the portions of the blog that you wish to. I am inviting you to go on a journey with me. We will learn together to be the kind of people we were designed to be. Anyone can make a difference in this world, but it starts%
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