Today we are going to talk about #1 on our list of things we should say more often.
Something nice. If you can’t think of anything nice to say, you’re not thinking hard enough.
The world is full of people who try to tear other people down. Don’t be one of those people. Say something nice instead.
Many people say things that are mean or meant to tear someone down for many reasons. Some do it to try to bring down another person so that they will look better. It mostly comes from that person feeling insecure in themselves. Sometimes someone is just having a bad day and they take it out on another person. They figure if they are feeling crappy, they want another person to feel crappy too. Some people say mean things without meaning to. They just slip out before they realize they are saying it.
Choose to be different. Choose to be a person who builds people up instead of tearing them down. Choose to say nice things to people. It goes back to the old saying your parents used to tell you as a kid, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything.” There is a lot of truth to that. If it is too hard for you to think of something nice to say to a person, you really would be better off not saying anything at all to that person.
Obviously, it is a lot easier to say nice things to people when you are having a good day. It is when things seem to be really going bad for you that the challenge of saying nice things becomes hard. My best advice would be to try to avoid just blurting out whatever is on your mind. Take the time to think about what you are saying before you actually say it. Ask yourself the question, “How would I feel if someone said that to me?” If it would make you feel good and build you up then go ahead and say it. If you would not like to hear it, then chances are that you would not like to hear it either.
The old saying, “Sticks and stones will break my bones, but words will never hurt me” really isn’t true at all. Our words have a great deal of power. You can really do a lot of damage to a person if you say mean and negative things to them. On the other side of the coin, you also have the power to build people up with your words.
Our assignment this week is to find at least three different people and really go out of your way and say something kind and uplifting to them. Try to make one of these people be someone who seems to be having a bad day. Make the choice to be a person who lifts people up instead of tearing them down.