Today we are going to talk about #6 on our list of things we should say more often.
Nothing. Just listen. Sometimes nothing is the best thing you can say.
Keith Whitley and later Allison Krause had it right when they sang, “You say it best, when you say nothing at all.” I am a firm believer in the fact that God gave us two ears and one mouth because we should listen more than we speak.
People in our society tend to be scared to death of silence. They do not like periods of time with nothing said so they sometimes talk just to talk.
If we know someone has a problem, we want to solve it, so we give them the best solution we know how. Sometimes a person isn’t looking for a solution. Sometimes they just want you to listen.
This happens a lot at funerals. You know a person is hurting so you want to tell them something and you end up saying something dumb that might seem to be minimizing their loss. Most people just want you to listen to them and then maybe just give them a hug.
We all need to get better at listening. Listening to our spouse, our children, our family, our friends, even our enemies. When we listen to them and don’t try to talk all the time, we are showing them that we care about them and what they are feeling.
We don’t have to have all the answers to be a great friend to them. We don’t even have to understand what they are going through. Sometimes we need to just be there for them and just listen
Our assignment this week is to find at least one person who seems to be down or out of sorts in some way. Ask them what is wrong and then just shut up and listen. Fight the urge to give them advice or try to sorry their problem. Just listen to them and show that you care.