In Part 1 of this blog series we looked at Exodus 8 and how Pharaoh waited a day to have Moses ask God to get rid of the frogs. Carrying unforgiveness around in your heart is like carrying a bunch of frogs around with you. Forgiveness allows us to get rid of these frogs. If you did not read Part 1 of this blog series, you can read it here.
In Part 2, I shared a bit about my personal story and my journey to learn what real forgiveness was. If you did not read Part 2 of this blog series, you can read it here.
Maybe as a child you weren’t given love and attention, or you experienced a lot of verbal or physical abuse growing up. Maybe you were made to feel like you were not special or that you were even inferior. If that’s the case, I have some good news for you. Jesus can heal you everywhere you hurt. And through a personal relationship with Him, you have the privilege of speaking the name of Jesus and believing in the power of God to completely heal you and make you just as if it never happened to you. But there are things you must do in order for the Holy Spirit to complete the work Jesus began in you when you accepted Christ as your Savior. If you have not taken that step, these will be the things you will need to do after you make that big step over the faith line.
Admit We Need Help
One of the first things we need to do is admit when we need help. Don’t be afraid to go to God and say, “I want to live in truth. Open my eyes where I’m deceived and teach me truth.” We can be real with God. He already knows everything about us. He even knows us better than we know ourselves. Like David did in Psalm 109:22, we can confess, “I am poor and needy and my heart is wounded,” and He will hear our cry for help.
When we look into the book of James, it tells us exactly what we should do.
James 5:16 (NIV)
16 Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.
Sometimes it’s good to talk to somebody and get things out in the open. I was in my thirties before I ever talked openly with others about some of the hurts that were buried deep in my soul. These were my frogs. Why did it take me so long? I think it was because I was afraid of what people would think of me. I was afraid I would be viewed as less of a person and some of the people whose approval I sought, would choose not to be associated with me anymore.
Satan wants us living in fear. He wants to ruin our lives and make us afraid someone will find out our secret fears and weaknesses. But secrets that are buried alive never die. These buried secrets just keep eating at us. It may be hard to tell someone what you are going through, but God loves you and He wants to heal and restore your life. He will help you when you come to Him honestly, humble yourself before Him and tell Him, “I love You, Lord, and I appreciate my salvation, but I’m a mess! I need Your help.” When I was finally able to do this and truly mean it, my life was changed forever.
Take Responsibility for Your Own Happiness
Very often when we’re hurting, we blame someone else instead of taking responsibility for our own happiness. Unhappy people want to make other people unhappy. Satan wants for someone to hurt us, then for us to be angry and bitter, spend our lives felling sorry for ourselves and then turn around and hurt someone else so they can do the same thing to someone else. It can go on like that from generation to generation.
I want to encourage you not to blame someone else for your problems. Maybe what happened to you is not your fault, but it doesn’t have to be an excuse to stay unhealthy. It was such a life-changing revelation for me when I found out I had such a mess in my soul because of things that happened in my past. When I would move to a new home, I thought I was leaving my problems behind me. But the truth is, I had a lot of wounds and a lot of frogs in my soul that went with me, and until I faced them and received God’s healing, I was going to continue to be a mess.
It was so wonderful to discover there was a promise in the Bible to cover every single one of my hurts. The Bible had the power to destroy every one of my frogs. This is true for you too. It will take time and diligence, study and prayer for you to walk out this healing that’s yours through the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ, but you can do all things you need to do with the Holy Spirit’s help.
Philippians 4:13 (NIV)
13 I can do all this through him who gives me strength.
Stop Putting It Off
“Tomorrow” is one of the most dangerous words in our English language. You don’t have to wait until tomorrow to forgive the people who hurt you, or stop saying it’s too hard, it’s too much, it’s not fair. Instead, you can decide that this is the day that the Lord has made. I will rejoice and be glad!
It’s so important to understand that the most important moment in your life is RIGHT NOW. It’s the only one you know for sure you have. You can’t undo what people did to you or the mistakes from your past, but you can make a decision today that you won’t spend one more day carrying around your frogs. Press in to your relationship with God and get beauty for ugliness, joy for depression, freedom for heaviness.
Turn Your Mess Into Your Message
Isaiah 61:1-3 (NIV)
61 The Spirit of the Sovereign Lord is on me,
because the Lord has anointed me
to proclaim good news to the poor.
He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted,
to proclaim freedom for the captives
and release from darkness for the prisoners,
2 to proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor
and the day of vengeance of our God,
to comfort all who mourn,
3 and provide for those who grieve in Zion—
to bestow on them a crown of beauty
instead of ashes,
the oil of joy
instead of mourning,
and a garment of praise
instead of a spirit of despair.
They will be called oaks of righteousness,
a planting of the Lord
for the display of his splendor.
If you feel like your life is a fragmented mess, let Jesus gather up the pieces. Hand over your frogs to Him. Your pain will become somebody else’s gain, your mess will become your message and what you have walked through will become somebody else’s miracle.
Looking back on my life thus far I can get a better idea of the plan God had for me. I could not understand why God would let me go to such low depths in my life. I could not understand why He did not deliver me right away instead of letting me wallow about. What I can see now is that God was giving me my story. A story that I can share with others, like you, and help them through their dark times. I can relate to the struggles of others because I have experienced my own. God will not fully deliver me until the day I leave this earth, but I am gaining wisdom along my journey and I am so thankful for what He has taught me so far. Even though I took a different route than I had originally planned, it was the route that was needed and I am thankful that God stuck with me through it all and still loved me the same.