If you have been with the same person for a long period of time, you might be asking yourself, “Is there really happy couples out there?”
Well, there are and if you have another half and don’t consider yourselves a happy couple, there are some lessons you can learn from those who do consider themselves happy couples.
If you do consider yourselves a happy couple, there are still some lessons you can learn from those who are happy just like you.
A few weeks ago, I ran across a list of 8 simple lessons from the “World’s Happiest Couples.” I thought it was a good list to consider so I wanted to share it with all of you.
Please understand that this is by no means a complete list. If you can think of something not included in this list, please share it with us so we can all learn from it.
Just remember, I didn’t write these, I am just sharing them with you so don’t shoot the messenger.
8 Lesson from Happy Couples
74% of couples who said they were happy give each other back rubs.
I am personally a big fan of back rubs. I love having my back rubbed. If you rub my back, the world becomes completely right for me. It is a simple thing you can do that makes a huge difference.
It’s not necessarily about the looks.
20% of the happiest partners say they’re not physically attracted to their spouse.
It seems like when we are younger, looks seem to be such a big thing in choosing to be with or not be with a person. We all get older and our looks are never what they used to be. Looking solely for looks in a person is like fool’s gold. You will never really be satisfied with who you are with.
Similar personalities help.
Of the 45% of people who say they have a lot in common with their spouses, 95% describe their relationships as extremely happy.
They say opposites attract, which can be true to an extent, but having personalities that aren’t on opposite sides of the spectrum can lead to much more happiness in the long-term. let’s face it, it is just hard to relate to someone who sees the world from a completely different lens than you do.
40% of the happiest couples say communication, more than friendship, affection, or even sex, is the most satisfying part of the relationship.
People always say that communication is the most important thing in a relationship and they say that because it is true. We all have our own voice and we all want to be heard. If we can’t get that from the person we are closest in this world to, then how can we ever hope to be happy?
Avoid the couch.
Only 1% of the happiest couples say they’ve ever slept on the couch.
They say you should never go to bed angry. There is so much truth to that. A happy couple should always sleep in the same bed. If you don’t you are sending the wrong message.
Some secrets are OK.
27% of the happiest couple have kept secrets from each other.
I am almost afraid to comment on this one. One school of thought is that you should never not tell the truth or withhold information from your special someone. I understand the reasoning. I was taught from a different school of thought. You should always tell the truth about the big and important stuff, no exceptions. For smaller things that are more trivial, you need to judge what you say. If you know something that will only hurt someone and is not something that will affect their life by not knowing, then I would say that you shouldn’t tell them. If someone asks you a question and your true answer would only accomplish making them feel bad, then maybe you should consider telling a little white lie from time to time.
I know many of you will disagree with me on that one, but that is what I think.
Be intimate often.
60% of extremely happy couples have sex 3 or 4 times per week.
A relationship will not last if it is based solely on sex, but it will also not last if you exclude sex. It is important to have intimacy. Just find the amount that is comfortable for both people.
Arguing can be healthy.
78% of the happiest couples argue occasionally.
Don’t kid yourself. Everyone in a relationship argues at some point. If you are in a relationship and you never argue, it means that someone is not all in with that relationship and it will not last anyway. It is normal to argue. You just need to learn how to argue properly. You need to argue fairly so you are not taking shots at your partner.