A couple of years ago at a leadership conference I attended in Indianapolis, I completed a personal evaluation exercise as part of that conference. One of the things I learned through this evaluation was the 3 main factors that keep me from moving forward and embracing new paradigms in my life and leadership. In other words, why I stay stuck.
Today, I want to share what those 3 main factors were for me and maybe you can relate to these as well and we can use it as an exercise to focus on not getting stuck with things in our lives.
3 main factors that keep me from moving forward.
Let’s face it,change is hard. Positive change is just as hard as negative change.
Sometimes, it’s easier to stay stuck than to move forward. Often, it’s more comfortable to stick with something that’s tolerable and familiar than to embrace something that’s preferable and unknown. We love to be comfortable. The problem is when we risk the possibility of moving on to better things and growing ourselves as a person, we have to really ask ourselves if the level of comfort is really worth it.
Sometimes when we try new things, they simply don’t work out like we had hoped they would. Sometimes we hope for a positive result, but end up with a negative result instead. When this happens, it makes us less likely to be as willing to try new things for the fear of it not working out. We have the fear of regret.
I have found that sometimes in my life, my regrets overpower my ambitions, causing me to remain in a state of paralysis. I am learning though that there’s nothing productive about what I wish I would have done then unless I use it to inform what I’m doing now.
This is simply when our lives seem so busy with other things, we simply don’t get around to making changes that could really have a positive influence in our lives. I like to call it “squirrel syndrome”. We get so busy looking at all the “squirrels” running around us doing things to keep busy, that we miss the things that our focus really should be on.
It’s hard to tell how many major adjustments I’ve avoided making because I was busy tending to insignificant side items. It’s sometimes very tempting for me to divert my attention from the big thing that God wants me to change by obsessing over something that ultimately doesn’t matter at all.
When it comes right down to it, I don’t want to stay stuck. I don’t want the storyline of my faith to be eclipsed by a shift I was unwilling to make.
If you are ever feeling stuck in your life, I would like to challenge you to look inside yourself. Look at some of the things in your own life that might be holding you back from making that change in your life that could really help you move forward to bigger and better things in your life. Sometimes when you look at the big picture and what you might be missing by not making the change, you might find that the cost of not doing it is more scary than the thought of doing it.
Make sure you are not holding yourself back from being the best you that you can possibly be.