Twenty Things We Should Say More Often (Part 4)

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Today we are going to talk about #18 on our list of things we should say more often.

Here is a surprise corn dog I bought you because you’re my friend

I know that this seems a little silly, but it is the idea behind this that is important.  Our lives are filled with many people.  Some of them we consider our friends.  When you have a friend, you have a responsibility to be a good friend to that person.  That means being there for them to listen, to laugh, to cry, to give advice, to hug, or to just joke around with.

A part of being a good friend means that from time to time, you will get your friend a gift.  It does not have to be a fancy gift or cost a lot of time and money.  It just needs to be from the heart.  It should show your friend that you were thinking about them and you wanted to get them something to show them that you care.

I don’t know about you, but growing up in Iowa, going to the State Fair each August is a tradition.  I just love going to the fair.  I have gone every year of my life except for the one year that I lived in Oklahoma.  When you have been going for that long, you develop certain rituals.  Each year when I go, I have certain places I always go look at like the Industrial Arts Building and the Horticulture Building.  I also have certain foods I eat each and every year.  At the top of that list is a corn dog.  I love corn dogs and no one makes them like they do at the Iowa State Fair.  I can tell you that if one of my friends bought me a corn dog just because they wanted to, I would just love that gift.

Our assignment this week is to pick one of our friends and get them a small gift to show them that you were thinking about them and give it too them.  It will really brighten their day.  It will also help us remember that it is important to do things like that to show our friends that we really care about them.

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Twenty Things We Should Say More Often (Part 3)

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Today we are going to talk about #19 on our list of things we should say more often.

Excuse Me

It seems like a no-brainer to say excuse me if you bump into someone or if you cut them off, but far too many of us don’t always say these two words.  “Excuse me” is an expression said when we have done something wrong to someone else.  We say “excuse me” as a way of acknowledging that we were in the wrong and we are now asking that person to excuse our transgression against them.  To not say “excuse me” is just plain rude.  You can understand this really well if you have had an experience where a person should have said “excuse me” to you and they did not say anything and just went on with their day.

Don’t be that person.  It is one of the biggest turn offs you could possibly give to another person.  People can be very forgiving if you will just say “excuse me,” but if you don’t, it can destroy your image in the eyes of that other person.

Be a person who cares about other people and their feelings.  Accidents do happen, but when you take the time to say “excuse me” and sincerely mean it, it will go a long way.

Our assignment this week is to say “excuse me” if we find ourselves in situations that warrant it.  I’m not saying to go create a scenario just so you can say it, but if that situation arises, be ready with a good “excuse me.”

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Twenty Things We Should Say More Often (Part 2)

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Today we are going to start with #20 on the list and work our way all the way up to #1.

#20 on the list is:

Thank you

It can be very easy for us to take other people for granted.  Sometimes it is people’s jobs to serve us so we don’t feel it is important that we thank them.

It is very important.  It is important that we thank people for the things that they do for us.  The things people do that make our lives a little bit easier.

If roles were reversed, and we were helping someone else out, we would want to be thanked, so we should show that same courtesy to them.

Can you imagine how much nicer this world would be if people would say “thank you” more often?  People would feel more appreciated and that in turn would build people’s confidence and self-esteem.  It might even eliminate the need for counselors.

If you really want to put it over the top, smile at the person when you tell them “thank you.”  A smile always seems to brighten someone else’s day.  If you can brighten someone’s day, it may make them more likely to brighten up someone else’s day and you can start a chain reaction.  Pretty cool huh?

So our assignment for this week is to try to use the word “thank you” several times throughout the week.  Whenever someone does something for you, make it a point to thank them for it.  Pay attention to people’s responses as you do this.  You might get some pretty amazing reactions.

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Twenty Things We Should Say More Often (Part 1)

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Several months ago, I saw a link on Face book to a video where this little boy was standing in front of a board and he went through 20 things that we should say more often.  It was absolutely adorable.  As I thought about what he had actually said, I began to realize the wisdom in what he was saying.  He was absolutely right.  Each and every one of those things he mentioned are things we really should say more often.

I wanted to share these 20 things with you and show you the video.  I realized however, that if I list all 20 things and give you the link to the video, you will read through them quickly and some of you might actually take time to watch the short video.  Most of you would think it was great, just like I did, but then a day or two later, you will have forgotten all about it.  I really want us to take the time to really think about each and every one of the things we should say more often.  If we see the whole list at once we might remember one or two of the things from that list, but would forget the others.  If we look at them one at a time and then really try to think about that one thing over the course of the week, we will be a lot more likely to remember more of them and actually start using them more in our lives in the things we say to others.

For that reason, I am going to turn this list into a long blog series and we will look at one of these things we should say more often in each blog.  The blogs will be short, but I invite you to read each week and try to find ways you can say that thing at least once over the course of that week.  If you are really an overachiever, you will find a way to say it three times over the course of that week.

I am also going to wait until the last blog in the series to give you the link to the video.  Once we have gone through each thing on the list and tried to say them more, your reward will be to see the boy saying those things.  He takes them to a new level and it will really brighten your day.

Now I hope you are on board with this little experiment we will be doing.  Take the rest of this week to buy into what we are doing and really commit to trying to say all 20 things more in your life.  I think you will be amazed at how your attitude can be transformed through this little experiment.

Check out the second part of this blog series next week and we will get started.

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How Great His Favor

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Ephesians 2:4-7 (NIV)

But because of His great love for us, God, who is rich in mercy, made us alive with Christ even when we were dead in transgressions—it is by grace you have been saved. And God raised us up with Christ and seated us with Him in the heavenly realms in Christ Jesus, in order that in the coming ages He might show the incomparable riches of His grace, expressed in His kindness to us in Christ Jesus.

 

 

Many times people tend to focus on what God has done in the past.  We focus on how God parted the Red Sea or stopped the sun for Joshua or fed thousands of people with just a little boy’s small lunch.  Yes, God has performed many amazing miracles throughout history and those are well documented within the pages of the Bible.  It is important that we give Him praise and glory for those miracles that He did perform all those years ago.

At the same time, we also need to look forward to what God wants to do in our lives today.  In the verse above found in Ephesians, Paul says that “in the coming ages,” God will do things that far supersede anything He’s ever done before.  I believe that this “coming age” that Paul is talking about, includes the time we are living in right now.  I think that God wants to outdo Himself and anything He has ever done in the past right now, in our generation.

Remember that God is a God of increase.  Where we are today is not where we are supposed to stay.  God has even greater levels of His favor and blessing in store for each of use.  We need to dare to dream BIG!  We need to dare to keep a God-sized vision in front of us.  A vision that we could never achieve on our own, but only through God.  We need to dare to take hold of all of the blessings God gives us, even the ones we have not received yet.

As we go through our days, let’s take the time to thank God for His faithfulness in our lives.  Let’s open our hearts and minds to the potential of what God can really do in our lives, not only today, but in the future as well.  Let’s ask God to use us to glorify the name of Christ to all those around us.

 

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The Fullness of Blessing

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Romans 15:29 (NIV)

29 I know that when I come to you, I will come in the full measure of the blessing of Christ.

God’s blessing is His supernatural empowerment that He gives to us.  It is God’s favor.  We have all seen a measure of His blessing at some point in our lives, but I believe there is a whole new level that he wants to take each and every one of us to.  God has promises and opportunities in store for each of us that we haven’t even thought of yet.  What we have seen in our past is only a fraction of what God wants to do for us in our futures.

Please understand that God is a God who likes to outdo Himself.  He wants to open doors for us and bring out talents and abilities in ourselves that we may not have even known we had.  We need to remember that the God we serve is a God of abundance.  He is the God of more than enough.

Not only does God want to meet our needs, He want to give us more than we needs so we have enough left over to bless other people.  That’s what living in the fullness of blessing really means.  When we start using what we have been given in our lives to help bless other people, which is when we begin living our lives to the full measure that God intended for us.

I have always heard that if you are feeling down and depressed, the best thing you can do is to go help someone else.  Find someone you can bless.  Go volunteer at church or somewhere in your community.  When you are helping others, it makes you feel better inside.  You will find that after helping someone in need, those feelings of depression within you will magically go away.

Don’t settle where you are right now in your life.  Our destiny is not determined by our economy, by our past, or by what anyone else thinks or says about us.  Our destiny is determined by the Almighty God.  He want to overwhelm us with His goodness so we can walk in the fullness of His blessing.

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The Two Roses

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Today I will be sharing with you the final poem I found in my notebook form my very brief poetry writing career back when I was in high school.  This particular poem was written on Aug. 31, 1994.

This poem really speaks to the power of love and how love can really be a two-sided sword.  Love can allow you to endure great trials and things that come your way.  Love can also make you lose all hope and will to live.  It is all dependant on that person you love.  Love is the greatest emotion of all and it can be the most amazing thing ever experienced, but it can also rip your heart out.

How we go through life and try to balance out how much love we are willing to put into someone, while trying to avoid hurt can really define us as people.  To be honest, I am a little surprised at the level of understanding I seemed to be writing with all those years ago.  I certainly did not have a lot of experience when it came to love back then.  I do think that the roses were a perfect vehicle for expressing the power of love.

This poem is like a modern-day Romeo and Juliet story told through the eyes of two roses.  It talks about love and it also talks about the power of friendship.  By assigning human qualities to the roses, it shows how dependant humans really are on the companionship of each other.  We draw our will to live, sometimes too much, on those around us whom we love.  Love can be a very scary thing because to experience it fully, you have to make yourself completely vulnerable.  That is not something that people like to do.  We like to feel safe.

I hope you enjoy!

 

The Two Roses

There once were two roses that lived side by side,

And by the forces of nature they did abide.

One day a wind storm came and knocked over many of the trees,

But the roses managed to survive.

One day it rained and flooded the field,

But the roses managed to survive.

One day it no longer rained and drought filled the land,

But the roses managed to survive.

One day a swarm of grasshoppers came and ate everything in sight,

But the roses managed to survive.

One day a tornado came and tore up the land,

But the roses managed to survive.

One day a man came and picked one of the roses,

The thought of loneliness was worse to the rose than the threat nature poses.

The only wish of that lone rose was for it’s life to end,

For it had lost its only everlasting friend.

So without the need to survive,

That lone rose laid down and died.

 

William John Marsau

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