Twenty Things We Should Say More Often (Part 8)

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Today we are going to talk about #14 on our list of things we should say more often.

I’ve got barbecue sauce on my shirt too.

Let’s face it, we all spill on our shirt sometimes.  When you are the only one in the crowd with a big blob of BBQ sauce on your shirt, you can tend to feel embarrassed and singled out.  If there is another person in the crowd with BBQ sauce on their shirt too, you don’t feel so bad.

Obviously, this goes a lot deeper than just spilling on your shirt.  We all mess up at times in our lives.  It happens to everyone.  Sometimes someone coming up to you and telling you “hey, it’s OK, I mess up too sometimes,” can make the person feel so much better.

Our ability to relate to someone and empathize with them can take a bad situation and make it so much more bearable.  People don’t want to be excluded.  When they mess up, they want people to tell them that it is OK.  Just remember, what goes around comes around.  There will come a day when you will want someone to relate to you and tell you it is OK when you make a mess of things so you should extend the same courtesy to others.

Our assignment this week is to find at least one person who has found themselves in a sticky situation.  When you find that person, go out of your way to make them feel comforted.  Let them know that it is not that bad.  You have messed up plenty of times too and it will be OK.  If you actually find someone who has spilled BBQ sauce on their shirt, spill some on yours too.  Then you really can show you understand.  BBQ sauce washes out, but the feeling of understanding can last a lifetime.

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Twenty Things We Should Say More Often (Part 7)

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Today we are going to talk about #15 on our list of things we should say more often.

You can do it!

Those four simple words can be so powerful. The power of positive thoughts is so underrated in my opinion. It is a proven fact that we use only a portion of our brains in our daily living activities. Mentally, we are all capable of doing so much more with our brains than we even realize.

There is a whole realm of positive vs. negative thoughts we have in our minds and how they affect the outcome of things that we don’t even understand yet. There is a lot to be said for if you really believe that you can do something, you can will yourself to doing it through positive thoughts. Of course the opposite is true. If we don’t think we can do something and we fill our minds with negative thoughts, we probably won’t do it.

People, by nature, can easily start doubting themselves. We tend to sell ourselves short when it comes to what we are capable. It is during these times that a spoken positive word from someone else can really boost the attitude of a person. One person telling another that they believe that a person can do it can really make a huge difference in how the person approaches what they are trying to accomplish. It can totally change their attitude. It can be that one last little push that gets them over the hump and gets them to where they are trying to get to.

I think that sometimes we don’t realize how much affect we can have on other people. We can change people’s days for the good or the bad. Make up your mind to always be a person who affects someone else’s day for the better.

Our assignment this week is to find at least two people who seem to be struggling with something in their lives. It can be marital problems, a hard project at work, a person trying to run 5 miles, even as simple as a person who can’t find something in the store. Give that person positive reinforcement. Tell them that they can do it and show that you really believe in them. It can be someone you know or even a complete stranger. Be bold and affect the attitude of someone today.

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Twenty Things We Should Say More Often (Part 6)

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Today we are going to talk about #16 on our list of things we should say more often.

I forgive you

This one goes right along with saying “I’m sorry.”  When people say that they are sorry, they are looking for the other person’s forgiveness.  Forgiveness seems like a no-brainer, but there can be a lot that stands in the way of being able to forgive someone.
The person might still be mad at the person who hurt them and this can make it very difficult to forgive that person. It can sometimes take a really long time for that anger to subside.
The person may not be sincere in their request for forgiveness.  If someone wants forgiveness, but they are not sincerely sorry for hurting you, how can you ever forgive them?  That can be very difficult indeed.
The person may not deserve forgiveness. The person may have done something really wrong to you and forgiveness may not be deserved.
The real issue is that if you are withholding forgiveness towards a person, you are not really hurting them or making them suffer.  Chances are that the person has already moved on in their life.  The person you are really hurting is yourself.  When you hang on to unforgiveness, it eats away at you from the inside.  It can cause you to become bitter and it can steal your joy.  Unforgiveness can transform you into being a person you really don’t want to be.  It is in your own best interest to just forgive the person and let it go.
Remember that we all screw up too.  We ask God to forgive us even though we don’t really deserve it and God chooses to forgive us anyway.  If God can do that for us, then we should be able to do that for another.
Our assignment for this week is to offer forgiveness to another person.  It may be someone who you should have forgiven for a while now.  Get a hold of that person and tell them that you forgive them and mean it.  It will feel like a great weight has been lifted from your shoulders.  Maybe someone will do something hurtful to you today and ask for your forgiveness.  Don’t hold it back.  Give that person forgiveness.

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Twenty Things We Should Say More Often (Part 5)

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Today we are going to talk about #17 on our list of things we should say more often.

I’m Sorry

These are two of the most powerful words that we could ever say.  They can also be, at times, two of the hardest words to say.  It can be difficult to say “I’m sorry” because to say that means to admit that we were wrong.  Most of us don’t like to admit when we are wrong.  Being wrong can be seen as a sign of weakness and people don’t like to look weak.

If you can get past this and say these words when they are warranted, they can go a long way towards healing the damage and hurt that we have caused.  When we sincerely apologize, it shows that we feel bad about hurting another person.  It is then very hard for the other person to continue to be mad at a person after they have sincerely said, “I’m sorry.”

Don’t be a person who is too proud to admit that they were wrong by saying you are sorry.  Saving your pride at the expense of another is no way to treat people.

Our assignment for this week is be sure to say “I’m sorry” if you have found that you have hurt someone else in some way.  Maybe the opportunity won’t come up this week, but it will soon enough and when it does, do not be too proud to say that you are sorry.

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Twenty Things We Should Say More Often (Part 4)

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Today we are going to talk about #18 on our list of things we should say more often.

Here is a surprise corn dog I bought you because you’re my friend

I know that this seems a little silly, but it is the idea behind this that is important.  Our lives are filled with many people.  Some of them we consider our friends.  When you have a friend, you have a responsibility to be a good friend to that person.  That means being there for them to listen, to laugh, to cry, to give advice, to hug, or to just joke around with.

A part of being a good friend means that from time to time, you will get your friend a gift.  It does not have to be a fancy gift or cost a lot of time and money.  It just needs to be from the heart.  It should show your friend that you were thinking about them and you wanted to get them something to show them that you care.

I don’t know about you, but growing up in Iowa, going to the State Fair each August is a tradition.  I just love going to the fair.  I have gone every year of my life except for the one year that I lived in Oklahoma.  When you have been going for that long, you develop certain rituals.  Each year when I go, I have certain places I always go look at like the Industrial Arts Building and the Horticulture Building.  I also have certain foods I eat each and every year.  At the top of that list is a corn dog.  I love corn dogs and no one makes them like they do at the Iowa State Fair.  I can tell you that if one of my friends bought me a corn dog just because they wanted to, I would just love that gift.

Our assignment this week is to pick one of our friends and get them a small gift to show them that you were thinking about them and give it too them.  It will really brighten their day.  It will also help us remember that it is important to do things like that to show our friends that we really care about them.

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Twenty Things We Should Say More Often (Part 3)

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Today we are going to talk about #19 on our list of things we should say more often.

Excuse Me

It seems like a no-brainer to say excuse me if you bump into someone or if you cut them off, but far too many of us don’t always say these two words.  “Excuse me” is an expression said when we have done something wrong to someone else.  We say “excuse me” as a way of acknowledging that we were in the wrong and we are now asking that person to excuse our transgression against them.  To not say “excuse me” is just plain rude.  You can understand this really well if you have had an experience where a person should have said “excuse me” to you and they did not say anything and just went on with their day.

Don’t be that person.  It is one of the biggest turn offs you could possibly give to another person.  People can be very forgiving if you will just say “excuse me,” but if you don’t, it can destroy your image in the eyes of that other person.

Be a person who cares about other people and their feelings.  Accidents do happen, but when you take the time to say “excuse me” and sincerely mean it, it will go a long way.

Our assignment this week is to say “excuse me” if we find ourselves in situations that warrant it.  I’m not saying to go create a scenario just so you can say it, but if that situation arises, be ready with a good “excuse me.”

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Twenty Things We Should Say More Often (Part 2)

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Today we are going to start with #20 on the list and work our way all the way up to #1.

#20 on the list is:

Thank you

It can be very easy for us to take other people for granted.  Sometimes it is people’s jobs to serve us so we don’t feel it is important that we thank them.

It is very important.  It is important that we thank people for the things that they do for us.  The things people do that make our lives a little bit easier.

If roles were reversed, and we were helping someone else out, we would want to be thanked, so we should show that same courtesy to them.

Can you imagine how much nicer this world would be if people would say “thank you” more often?  People would feel more appreciated and that in turn would build people’s confidence and self-esteem.  It might even eliminate the need for counselors.

If you really want to put it over the top, smile at the person when you tell them “thank you.”  A smile always seems to brighten someone else’s day.  If you can brighten someone’s day, it may make them more likely to brighten up someone else’s day and you can start a chain reaction.  Pretty cool huh?

So our assignment for this week is to try to use the word “thank you” several times throughout the week.  Whenever someone does something for you, make it a point to thank them for it.  Pay attention to people’s responses as you do this.  You might get some pretty amazing reactions.

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